Eulogy writing, memorials, and celebrations of life in Tulsa

How I can help

A eulogy and a gathering shaped around your loved one

A eulogy is the part of a service where we try to tell the truth about a person, in a way the family can recognize. I can write that eulogy with you, from the stories you share, and I can deliver it at the funeral, the memorial, or the celebration of life. If someone in the family wants to speak and would rather I help with the words, I can help with that too.

Not every gathering is a traditional funeral. Some families want a memorial service after a burial or a cremation. Some want a celebration of life that feels less formal, with more room for stories, music, and the kind of memories people actually tell around a table. I can officiate those gatherings in Tulsa, Sapulpa, and nearby towns, at a funeral home, a church, a family home, or outdoors.

I've been a hospice chaplain for 10 years, and that work has taught me to listen first. You don't have to have the stories organized. We'll talk about what you want remembered, what you'd rather leave unsaid, and how long the service should feel. I can include guitar and singing if your family would like. You do not have to belong to a church to ask for this help.

If you want a sense of how I think about a eulogy and the order of a service, my video How to officiate a funeral is on YouTube and has nearly 50,000 views. When you are ready, use the form on this page. Tell me whether you need a eulogy, a memorial, a celebration of life, or a cremation memorial, and I'll follow up. If the date is close, please say so in the message.

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